According to Black American women, they have found themselves repeatedly invested in systems that do not serve them. So much so they are part and parcel of the support systems that discriminate against them. In the past year, a Divestment Movement among black women has been developing its foundational beliefs and corresponding action items. Who and what to divest from, why it is important to do so, and the expected outcomes of withdrawing themselves is an ongoing conversation on social media across social media platforms.
Most pointedly, the divestment movement among black women centers around divesting from the black male collective in general, while remaining invested in the lives of their black male significant others and immediate relatives. These black women represent a minority among black women who have had enough of the alleged one-way loyalty when it comes to black men.
What is meant by this one-way loyalty?
An example of this one-way loyalty is this: The average black woman is known to have said phrases like this one: ” I like my men like I like my coffee, strong and black.” Extolling the good qualities of dark skin. Stroking, and inflating the ego of dark-skinned men in an effort to affirm them against the poisons of power structures that denigrate African ancestry upholding white as right. Black men in response to this, have only doubled down on their preference for nonblack women, biracial black women, and lighter-skinned black women often referred to as high-yellow or redbones. As a result black women, the majority of whom cannot pass the brown paper bag test for acceptable skin complexion, find themselves at the bottom when it comes to the preferences of black men. Several social consequences come along with this such as finding love and marriage later in life, or early in life and being loyal to a man eager to replace you with a woman whose white adjacent image will impress his friends and massage his sense of self-worth.
Black Women are tired of Being on The Front Line
Another example of this one-way love and loyalty is black women’s outrage when it comes to the shooting and killing of unarmed black women. Often times the majority of blacks taking to the street in protest are women and children who were taken by women to these events. Black female activism in the name of blacks but specifically as it relates to black men is hardly returned in likeness when black women are on the receiving end of police brutality. An example of this is Korryn Gaines. Black men all over social media said she (and Sandra bland) got what they deserved for being mouthy and attitudinal. Death is hardly a befitting consequence for having a “bad attitude”.
Black Love is Only Marketed to Black Women
Another example of this one-way loyalty is the concept of black love that is marketed towards black women only. Black women in interracial relationships are often on the receiving end of insults that find their roots in American chattel slavery for dating outside of their race. On the Clubhouse app Tariq Nasheed called a host of women bed wenches for “swirling” with white men. Nasheed, the creative force behind Hidden Colors and more recently Buck-Breaking, is known for his pro-blackness, who advised thousands of black men to marry biracial women with white mothers and not black mothers, like his wife Peanut. He also mentioned, “raising the European flag in the bedroom” on his podcast. Pro-black men have been known to celebrate other black men for being with non-black women. Brother Polite and Young Pharaoh are typical examples of black men who gain a following of black women only to abandon them when they have reached their pinnacle. Black men praise black men for interracial relationships and biracial children but shame black women for the same.
Being financially Exploited by Hobo-sexual Black Men
When it comes to finances black women are no stranger to out-earning their men and supporting them financially. Only to be referred to as immoral gold diggers for erecting the same standard for themselves. Ride or die chicks have been known to make money and give money to the men they are with including putting money on the books of incarcerated black men, while black women in female prisoners, in contrast, languish without the same support. Rapper Papoose is known for his love and loyalty to his wife once mentioned who when he visits the men’s prisons it is full of female visitors, but that when he visits the female prisons the visitation rooms arena empty, and hardly male. He encouraged black men to do better.
Viral Smash or Pass Videos: Colorism
This fringe minority of black women has been gaining momentum especially with the popularity of smash or pass videos emerging of black boys disrespecting black women for being dark-skinned as if their complexion makes them inferior. In stark contrast, young white men given the same lineup of women routinely choose the dark-skinned black girls saying smash instead of pass. This population of black women and girls are fed up with protesting for the lives of black men when according to Black Femicide America a black woman is killed, most often by a black man, every 6 hours.
Divested Black Women’s Conclusion
Their stance is this: They are willing to leave black men to their biracial and exotic preferences. They want nothing to do with them. They do not wish to sit at a roundtable of discussions for solutions because this is something that has already happened throughout the generations. An often-repeated line by divested black women is this: “Go where you are celebrated and appreciated, not where you are tolerated and berated.” They have given up the fight as recommended by Dr. Ralph Richard Banks who wrote the book Is Marriage for White People? He encouraged black women to lay their burdens down because their unrequited loyalty to black men is not serving their interests.